I was a nerd in high school.
I’m on the top left
Actually, I’m still a nerd, but that’s totally not the point. That picture up there is my senior year of high school colorguard. Luckily, we were not required to wear those hideous uniforms all 4 years, but wore them for “senior day” and performed part of our freshman halftime show. We nicknamed them the smurf suits if I remember correctly. (They were this weird pants suit with a half skirt that we often held over our heads as a ridiculous semi-cape) We were a competition band and I loved it (nerd). Marching band consisted of a lot of “hurry up and wait” i.e. hurry the heck up and make sure you are totally ready, but we aren’t actually performing for 2 more hours, so then you have to wait.
This is what infertility is starting to feel like.
Who am I kidding? Starting to is the understatement of the decade. I’ve been “ready” forever, but somehow it feels as though I’m never done waiting. For the next RE appointment,for the next time to ovulate, for the next time to count down the days hoping but trying not to hope too hard so you won’t be too disappointed when you find out you have to keep waiting.
One of the things I’ve sort of “prided” myself on has been my ability to maintain somewhat of a sense of humor through all of this madness. I’m finding it harder to keep in touch with recently. I felt positive about news of our tax refund and its’ ability to help us finance this IVF, but it appears that we have hit yet another financial roadblock. I know I’ve mentioned previously my tendency to have “catastrophe brain”, and it seems to be working on overdrive.
What doesn’t make sense to me is the fact that it was *my* decision and *I* decided to wait.
Welcome to the Wide World of Ridiculous Infertility Emotions, starring: me, directed by: my crazy emotional brain.
Act One/Scene One:
Yes I understand emotionally, financially and logically the benefit of waiting
Act One/Scene Two:
I’m annoyed, impatient, bitter and jealous and I don’t want to wait anymore.
Act Two/Scene One:
It’s not a big deal
Act Two/Scene Two:
It is a big deal.
rinse/repeat
The End
No autographs, please.
Also, I am officially diagnosing myself with Infertility Induced Bipolar Disorder. (IIPD)
March 5, 2012 at 10:37 pm
Sounds about right. I’m constantly battling the wait. Then I feel like I need to focus on other things and it doesn’t matter anymore. Then the next day, out of the blue, it does. Oh, and I was a nerd in h.s. too. You are just more brave than me to dig up a photo. LOL!
March 5, 2012 at 10:42 pm
Right? It’s infertility induced bipolar disorder
March 5, 2012 at 11:09 pm
“infertility induced bipolar disorder”–Exactly!
March 5, 2012 at 11:56 pm
Heh. Every time I read your posts all I can think is… OMG… I am NOT alone. Yeah… after my big “I’ve made a decision…” post this weekend, I’ve pretty much done nothing but cry and have now managed (much to DH’s dismay, I’m sure) to convince myself it’s NOT over and I’m NOT ready to give up on the IVF yet.
I’m tired of waiting… but more, I’m tired of not having an answer. And yet, to get an answer I have to… you’ve got it… WAIT.
At least I know I’m not alone in my little world of crazy. HUGS
March 6, 2012 at 3:47 am
I love this post! First of all, I too was in colorguard in high school, in fact I was captain my senior year. 😉
I think the marching band hurry up and wait is the perfect analogy to infertility. I’m with you on being sick and tired of this process. At least with marching band we knew the season would be over eventually!
March 6, 2012 at 12:22 pm
Ah! Hurry up and wait at its finest. True story and one I’m afraid we’re acting out without any retakes or redos. Sucktastic. You’ve got your sense of humor and some great online support!
March 6, 2012 at 6:42 pm
I was in colorguard and remember the ridiculous uniforms as well. It seems like most years definitely involved a leotard of some sort. One year we had a white leotard with a flimsy, gauzy silver skirt that was the same materials the flags were made out of with matching sequin card-board/dome-shaped hats. Lovely. I liked my senior year because we got to wear all black, even if part of the uniform was a leotard and tight pants.
March 6, 2012 at 9:28 pm
Very well said girl! But the “anxiety girl” costume made me laugh!
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