The Grandfather Passage is a reading passage sometimes used in the field of Speech Therapy, usually with adults. It doesn’t make a ton of sense as a story when read line by line, but is used to assess things like speech fluency and voice. The first line begins “you wish to know all about my grandfather….”
Trips to my grandparents were fairly frequent when I was little. I called them Pap and Precious. Apparently I started calling her precious because she would comment on something I did or said that was precious and so I called her that once and the name stuck. I can’t remember why Pap was Pap but pretty much everyone called him that. When we visited he and I would often take walks to get the newspaper and I’d sometimes get candy from Warfield’s, the local store. I really enjoyed those walks. That stopped at some point, I assume because I was probably too cool for that. Then of course as I got older we didn’t visit as much, particularly during college and once I had moved to South Carolina.
During our trip to Ohio at Christmas we traveled to Pennsylvania to visit him at the nursing home. We did the same the year before, and Bryan was able to meet him and my aunt for the first time. Wheelchair bound and suffering from dementia but still able to able to converse, still mostly cognizant. Christmas 2011
I’ve said before that it’s crazy what difference a year can make. After a bout of aspiration pneumonia which landed him in the hospital, he had just returned to the home a few days before. He knew about the pregnancy and I had shared the news of the sexes with my aunt during his hospital stay, and he declared their names should be Isadore and Isabel. Unfortunately the day we visited he was not very responsive and I wasn’t sure at first if he even knew who I was. He hadn’t eaten much and was running a fever. At one point, though, he looked over at me and pointed at my belly. He knew. It made me sad that he probably wouldn’t ever get to meet them in person, as we expected this would be his last Christmas.
As the days went on his health continued to decline and eventually two or three days ago he stopped eating. Bryan and I are not regular pray-ers, but we did that night for him, my aunt, my dad, and the family in general.
When my phone rang this morning and read “Dad” on the screen, we knew. He had passed about 7 this morning. It was time. His passage from earth was expected, but all the same hard to hear.
As I left for my walk later this morning I thought of the ones we used to take together. Today’s walk was me, the dogs, my IPOD and Pap….with the periodic shout at the dog to stop pulling me.
We miss you down here, but know you are happy up there. Now, you can walk with me and the babies every morning.
January 14, 2013 at 12:01 am
I had tears in my eyes reading this. I’m so sorry for your loss. This sounds very much like what happened with my grandmother 11 years ago. I still miss her and think about her all the time. I love the idea of your Pap being on those walks with you and the babies. Thinking of you.
January 14, 2013 at 12:41 am
Oh man… I’m so sorry for your loss. There’s a special bond between grandfathers and their granddaughters. I know this must be hard. These photos are beautiful. Cherish your memories, I know you will. Xoxo
January 14, 2013 at 1:17 am
I’m so very sorry for your loss, friend. I have lost all of my grandparents now and two of them I was very close to, so I know how hard it is even when you know it is coming. As with a miscarriage, or parenting, or so many other moments in life, it is one of those things that are impossible to fully prepare for. May you find peace and healing and feel Pap’s presence often in the days, months, and years ahead. ~ hugs ~
January 14, 2013 at 2:32 am
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry about the loss of your grandfather. I’m very close to my own grandfather and his memory is slowly starting to decline. I just try to remember the happier times when he was healthier and always carry that with me. Carry those happy memories with you and your grandfather will always be there with you 🙂
January 14, 2013 at 4:55 am
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of love and strength today!
January 14, 2013 at 9:35 am
Sorry to hear about your grandpa. Even when it’s expected and when health is declining for a while, death is never easy to deal with. I’m sure you’ll keep his memory alive and tell stories of walks with him to your precious babies when they arrive. Hugs!
January 14, 2013 at 10:35 am
I am so very sorry. Thinking of you and your family. Hugs.
January 14, 2013 at 11:49 am
I am sorry to hear about your grandpa. Grandparents are precious and it is a hard loss. Thinking of you and your family. hugs!
January 14, 2013 at 1:32 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss. I miss my grandpa every day. Sending hugs!
January 14, 2013 at 3:17 pm
This made me cry. It is amazing that he knew about the babies. The last picture tugged at my heart too. I love you and I know Pap is so happy now. No more pain. I continue to pray for you, Bryan and the babies. Again, I love you.
January 14, 2013 at 4:27 pm
I just finished texting your Mom and Dad. I saw your Dad’s posting on FB and was afraid to read your blog posting since I was at work. But since I could not get them I did so. I am so very sorry to hear of your Grandfather’s passing. Find comfort in knowing that he is in Heaven with your beloved Grandmother. Praying for you all and those two babies!!! Love you, Jan
January 14, 2013 at 10:53 pm
I’m so sorry. Thinking of you and your family.
January 15, 2013 at 8:34 am
This is beautiful written about your dear Pap. I’m so sorry for your loss, grandparents can be really special. I like the idea that he is with you on your walks, watching over you.
January 15, 2013 at 7:58 pm
I’m sorry about the loss of your grandfather and very sorry he didn’t get to meet your babies. Grandfathers are very special and I know that he will continue to live in your heart and in your children.
January 16, 2013 at 3:52 pm
So so sorry about the passing of your grandfather but what a beautiful thought to think about him watching over you and the little ones all the time now…thinking of you…
January 18, 2013 at 2:32 pm
😦 I’m so sorry to hear of your grandfather’s passing. sending you lots of hugs
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January 19, 2013 at 7:01 am
Just catching up post-op. So sorry to hear this, but so glad that you got to see him one last time at Christmas. X
January 19, 2013 at 9:47 pm
I am too. I was at least able to say goodbye then.