I start stabbing myself on a daily basis tomorrow morning.
Be jealous.
People say when you’re TTC and not having any luck to do things you enjoy, things you can do without children, cross things off of your “bucket list”. While I loved the movie, I’ve never been much of a bucket list type. Besides, as I’ve told hubby, the only “must do” thing I’d have left on mine right now (at the ripe old age of 29 – hey, I’m not 30 for 6 more days) is to have children. Sure, I’d like to travel, but if I didn’t I wouldn’t regret it that much. Sure. I’d like to skydive, but I’d rather have children. That is most important.
I suddenly feel in a rush to do things before I start stims. Not only because I might not be able to do them once pregnant if it does work, but so I can have something to look back to in this process that I enjoyed if it doesn’t. I don’t want to look back on my 30th birthday and think of it as my “failed IVF cycle” birthday. That would suck.
My tattoo started me off a couple weeks ago. Here is what I have planned/hope to have planned for myself in the next few weeks:
(I kinda stole this from Idiotic Infertilty…..)
Get another tattoo- Get hair highlighted – Thursday!
- Try Acupuncture – Friday, thanks to my friend at work who got me a gift certificate for three sessions!
- Touch up tattoo
- Get a massage
- Enjoy a couple good glasses of wine
- Enjoy a ridiculously rich dessert – eat it all if I want to
- Get a manicure/pedicure
Run a long run– 8 miles this past Saturday- Run one more race – 5k August 25th (day I start stims, but since I take them at night I can squeeze it in!)
- Skydive!! – On my birthday!!!
At the very least, I have things to look forward to that don’t have anything to do with infertility or IVF that I can use to remind myself that I am in fact a fairly normal person.
Bring on the skydive!!
August 13, 2012 at 9:17 pm
I love this post…I had the same type and what was on the top of my list was SUSHI!!! Have fun skydiving!!!
August 13, 2012 at 11:13 pm
Skydiving is absolutely amazing. I insisted on it as an 18th birthday present and got hopelessly addicted the summer before university. There are few things that can make you feel more alive (apart from running, actually – being fit and running is one of my favourite things!)
August 13, 2012 at 11:31 pm
We will be doing our first IVF right around my 30th birthday as well. I have a similar feeling to you…if it doesn’t work I don’t want to look back at this birthday as being all negative. Making a list like yours with a bunch of fun things to do to do before we start sounds like a great idea. That way if things don’t work out we’ll have had some great experiences anyways. Good luck with all the needles! I’m a nurse but I’m still nervous about giving myself shots!
August 14, 2012 at 9:26 pm
post your list when you make it! The needles aren’t so bad (though I haven’t started doing the stims yet). The idea of the shots is always worse than the shot itself. So when is your birthday and your upcoming cycle?
August 13, 2012 at 11:38 pm
I’m way too chicken to skydive! Have fun! Happy birthday (early). I’ll be thinking of you during this cycle. Wishing you the very best!
August 14, 2012 at 9:26 pm
Thanks!!
August 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm
Skydiving sounds amazing — something I’ve been wanting to try for years. Please write a post about it after you have crossed it off your list! 🙂
August 14, 2012 at 9:25 pm
will do!
August 14, 2012 at 2:58 am
I like your bucket list!! So cute:) I wanna do all that u listed minus the sky diving cause I’m scurrrred of heights… I hope u enjoy girl!!
August 14, 2012 at 9:25 pm
I’ll be sure to write about it so you can just live vicariously 🙂
August 14, 2012 at 8:16 am
I am totally flattered and glad that you used my idea. I have been very, very happy that I chose to make my down cycle into one that is full of good things.
I’ve only gotten my mileage up to two miles at a go… Hoping I can get to three before I have to stop.
Also, happy 30th! Don’t worry, it’s not so bad. 🙂
August 14, 2012 at 9:25 pm
Congrats on your two miles! You should be incredibly proud! And thanks for the bucket list idea!
August 14, 2012 at 12:49 pm
Your bucket list reads much like mine, right down to the highlights! With the exception of the tattoo and certainly not the skydiving! But hey, that’s what makes your list unique. Enjoy your bday!!
August 14, 2012 at 9:24 pm
so what would yours have that mine doesn’t, out of curiousity? 🙂
August 14, 2012 at 9:46 pm
That’s a really good question. My lists always included wine, sushi, running, highlights one last time, one last trip even if small, and sometimes I think about projects that I know I wouldn’t get to if pregnant. But, we just cleaned out the basement the other day – so this must mean it will happen soon, right?!
August 14, 2012 at 2:31 pm
Happy 30th Birthday!
August 14, 2012 at 9:23 pm
thank you!
August 14, 2012 at 6:18 pm
Great movie! Don’t tell anyone, but yea, I totally made a Bucket List after watching it, lol. I love your list and think it’s a great idea to have something positive to look forward to, and to look back on regardless of the outcome of this cycle. And it’s much more realistic than a Bucket List. Hm, do I really ever think I’ll visit all the continents? Probably not. Your list is definitely doable. Have fun completing it! And Happy Birthday if I forget…my mind isn’t good at remembering things these days.
August 14, 2012 at 9:23 pm
Thanks! and thanks for the birthday wishes!!
August 14, 2012 at 9:45 pm
So the skydiving is back on? Woo-hoo! That sounds like so much fun. Everything else on your list sounds great, too. I think my list would be pretty exclusive to the massage, wine, and dessert. 🙂
August 16, 2012 at 9:36 am
I’m wishing you amazing things this year, m’lady! Excited to follow your journey through this IVF cycle!
August 26, 2012 at 3:30 pm
Great list. I sort of had the reverse of this list, like, things I can do now that I am not doing any more ART procedures. Hair dye, tattoo, wine, etc. I got a tattoo a few months ago that says blessed. It is part of my letting go process and a good reminder for me.