I made a declaration at the beginning of April. Frustrated with all the stress surrounding us, I decided 3 things were going to happen:
1. Bryan’s ex is going to leave us alone
2. Bryan is going to get a job offer
3. I ‘m going to have a miracle natural pregnancy
No, I was not drunk when I made this declaration, but perhaps I might as well have been.
On the plus side, #1 FINALLY happened. (In short, she was sueing him – it was such a huge amount of ridiculousness I can’t even explain it properly, and went on for months.)
11 days left on #2 and #3.
So we are quickly approaching the waiting period I had decided on before moving onto the IVF. I was so terribly disappointed to put it off a couple months ago, and suddenly I find myself not quite ready to jump in.
When I first started doing research on IVF’s a couple of search responses for IVF Vacation popped up. Intrigued, I clicked on them. Apparently, its fairly popular to have a procedure done overseas, and since you are there for awhile you essentially get a vacation thrown in. Unfortunately, all of the ones I researched required a 21-30 day stay- something I have nowhere near enough PTO for. And even though the cost of the IVF is highly discounted, losing money not working wouldn’t have made it worth it.
Until I came across another blogger planning to do one in Barbados.
Barbados only requires a 14 day stay. And the cost for travel, lodging AND the procedure is roughly the same as JUST the procedure would cost us here.
She so kindly sent me the website and I clicked on it. Immediately I began to drool over the beach pictures.
Seriously? (image credit)
From what I’ve gathered from her and preliminarily, you order meds and begin them at home. At a certain point in your cycle you travel there. The cost of the hotel packages (beachfront!) include shuttle to and from the airport and to and from the hospital for the procedure. The retrieval and transfer are done there, you rest for a couple of days and then head home and take the pregnancy test at home.They actually claim a higher success rate than my doc gave me here (71% vs 65%)
When Bryan and I took our most recent mini vacation, we were SO much more relaxed even for those two days. We felt like different people. And even though things are finally becoming less stressful around here, I can only imagine what two weeks in a tropical place could do.
So for the same amount of money as the stressful, try to schedule around work and clean my house while dealing with my crazy dogs bored to death procedure here, I could spend two weeks in a tropical place? (YAY honeymoon we never took!)
No decisions have been made yet. If we do it, it won’t be till probably late summer so the procedure would be put off again, but strangely I feel completely ok with that.
And if it doesn’t work? At least we got a two week tropical vacation.
The most expensive vacation EVER, but I guess beggars can’t be choosers.
So, if my declarations don’t come true, I have a FANTASTIC plan B:
Don’t forget a towel to catch your drool (image credit)
April 19, 2012 at 9:01 pm
As a veteran IVF destination (Thailand) participant, I can’t recommend it more highly. Just even being away from the cooking, cleaning and every day grind makes things way less stressful. I have done both cycles at home and cycles away and I just don’t think you can beat the perspective, relaxation, distraction and fun that you get with a destination cycle. Good luck!!!
April 20, 2012 at 10:20 am
Oh wow! that sounds amazing. I wonder what happen if you get frozen embryos? do you need to go back there again or how would it work? if you look into it it would be interesting to know.
April 20, 2012 at 10:38 am
They can be shipped. The only question I have is how much does that cost? I can’t even imagine. We are still doing some research, but if the cost comes out comparable in the end (with travel, food, dog boarding, shipping embryos) we are totally in!
April 20, 2012 at 1:18 pm
They can be shipped but make sure their lab is up to par. Because losing any embryos due to poor lab handling would be heartbreaking.
Otherwise, Id go for it! Looks amazing!
April 20, 2012 at 1:49 pm
I am so book marking this just iin case I ever get to that point! It sounds like a great idea!
April 20, 2012 at 2:37 pm
OMG! I just went for a cruise to St Kitts/Maarten etc over Christmas and I was a little bummed over water clarity( I love to snorkel).
I just looked at a world map to find Barbados and turns out, I just have to go lower…That looks EXACTLY like what I had in mind! So If you see an Indian girl when you are down there, well, hey it just may be me:)
An IVF vacation sounds like such a good idea, especially to a place like that, its going to destress you instaed of the opposite. Also, if you are not taking vitamin D supplements, you’ll be getting it naturally:)
out of curiosity- the link does not work- do they offer PGD and do they vitrify embryos when they freeze?
April 20, 2012 at 3:01 pm
Ah shoot. Sorry about the link. When I get to a computer I will fix it. If you google Barbados ivf you should find it.
They do PGD. I am not sure about the embryos offhand. I sent an email for a phone consult and Am waiting to hear back – or I will call Monday, whichever comes first 🙂
April 21, 2012 at 10:04 pm
Good luck on your miracle! I totally did that every so often too, decided that THIS would be the month.
April 22, 2012 at 8:47 am
Hey – I tried commenting on your blog but it wouldn’t let me. I wanted to say thanks for visiting my blog and best of luck on your IVF. I totally agree that all people need to do is ask how we are doing – sometimes I think they just don’t know how.
April 24, 2012 at 2:22 pm
That’s strange! Thanks for coming by : )
April 21, 2012 at 10:57 pm
Hello from ICLW #99.
Wow! That looks pretty amazing. And I do believe that being relaxed during IVF or any treatment really does help. You could also look into other places. Many overseas clinics have you start at home and then just come for the retrieval and transfer. Thailand is a great place to go for fertility treatments. And India too, that’s where I live.
Wishing you the best of luck.
April 22, 2012 at 8:57 am
I tried to comment on your blog but I kept getting an error. Hi from ILCW! Thanks for stopping by my blog. I wanted to say that I have looked into IVF Vacation in India, but if I remember correctly it required a longer stay than I could pull off with work. I LOVE your Mario Brothers analogy and the way you write!
April 21, 2012 at 11:20 pm
Wow, I’ve never heard of IVF vacation, what a crazy idea! Hope you a SUPER successful next 11 days, but I’m loving your plan B!
April 22, 2012 at 8:41 am
April 22, 2012 at 3:44 am
Here from ICLW and ohhhhh myyyyy gaaaaawd! An IVF Vacay sounds wonderful. I quickly explained this idea to Hubster and he’s all for it! Even though we’re totally not there yet lol! I’ve tagged you with The Lovely Blog Award and will be following your journey! GOOD LUCK!!
April 22, 2012 at 8:41 am
Doesn’t it sound fabulous? And if it doesn’t work, at least you get a vacation….the most expensive one ever, but a vacation nonetheless.
April 22, 2012 at 2:05 pm
April 22, 2012 at 12:16 pm
Wow! We are on a little mini vacay before embarking on IVF at this very moment. It’s no Barbados but we are having a nice time and relaxation that is much needed. I’m doing a reveal on our vacay tomorrow. I totally recommend it…even if it’s close by and not extravagant.
April 24, 2012 at 11:31 pm
Hello! Here from ICLW and very intrigued by this IVF vacation idea! I am sincerely hoping that I don’t have to go on an IVF anything, and you too! But if you have to do IVF anyway…not a bad place to do it:)
April 25, 2012 at 7:29 pm
All I can say is THANK YOU! When I saw your post I immediately started researching and my husband and I ditched our plan to have treatments done at a hugely successful clinic in San Diego. Here we come Barbados…..
April 25, 2012 at 7:34 pm
awesome! glad I could help!!
April 26, 2012 at 5:20 pm
hello from iclw… we considered doing an ivf vacation before i got pregnant with my daughter, we had two more iui’s to go and i ended up pregnant on one of them so we didn’t end up doing it, i did do a lot of research on it though and i totally agree, even if you don’t get pregnant at least you’ve got a wonderful vacation to remember!