Several weeks ago I got an email from my timeshare.
Usually, if you don’t use the points you get for the year, they are automatically saved so you can use them the next year. You can’t use them during the high season, but at least they don’t disappear.
Apparently timeshares are also feeling the effects of the economy, because this particular email informed me that if I wanted to save my points, I would have to fork over $35.
Are you flipping kidding me?
So naturally my logic kicked in and I declared DARN YOU TIMESHARE, I will show you by scheduling a trip, so I don’t have to pay you $35!!!! We are going to St Augustine over Easter weekend!!
Because the gas will cost like $150, so that train of thought totally makes sense right?
As it turns out, it did. But for a totally different reason.
Marriage is hard. Unemployment doesn’t help. Now let’s throw in infertility. Anyone with half an iota of experience in infertility can tell you that it can ruin marriages. Even when you’re on the same page as far as the plan. And don’t get me started on the effects of your….uh….extracurricular activities.
We did some planning ahead. A wonderful neighbor so nicely agreed to watch the dogs, we took food to cook and planned on spending most of our time at the beach and the pool (yay free activities!). Although we should have saved the money, we both agreed we really needed the getaway. So we packed the truck, said goodbye to our furry friends and hit the road.
Friday we hit the beach. Bryan was an avid kite flyer many moons ago when his family lived in Savannah, so he brought them out of the dust. He is also an avid shopper at the Habitat for Humanity Re-Store. Although I make fun of him for it, he has actually purchased some cool stuff there, including our patio furniture, a George Foreman Grill and a Cappuccino machine (I have been there a few times and have yet to find anything that cool). At one visit recently, he announced that he spent $2 on a little pup tent that we could probably use. It was still in his truck (because, shockingly, we hadn’t needed it), but we figured it might come in handy. We found a spot, and set it up. It became apparent that he hadn’t taken it out of the packaging at the store:
Coolest tent EVER
Well, at least we wouldn’t lose our stuff.
Bryan spent the better part of 2 hours putting a kite back together that his dad made for him for his birthday. After much finagling (him) and string holding (me), he was able to get it into the air. Yes, that’s what it looks like it is
He had also borrowed a medal detector from a friend so he searched for treasure
While I enjoyed the view of my (soon to be very sunburned) feet
Afterwards it started to get cold, so we went back to the hotel and had a nap, cooked dinner, walked around the outlet mall to window shop (where I subsequently bought a new pair of running shoes, justifying it by saying I’m using the money we would have spent boarding the dogs…..and that I really need to have good shoes for my feet…..what? I do) and hit the hot tub. Saturday I went running (shock, right?) and we had lunch with his mom, step dad and grandmother, who happened to live only 90 minutes away. We hit the other side of the Outlet Mall that night, but this time, we were serious
window shopping face.
Although I didn’t NEED anything, I thought it would be nice to find something for the summer. In our search, we acted like spies:
Powers and Powers, super spies
Bryan also demonstrated just how cool he is:
And I tried on some SUPER attractive outfits:
For the record, I did NOT buy that.
After our shopping excursion, we spent the rest of the evening downtown. We had a drink in this nifty historic tavern and had the BEST salad EVER at this Columbian restaurant, where I also had a giant piece of chocolate cake. Mmmm…cake.
Sunday, I got a pic with the Easter bunny…kinda.
As an added bonus, we stopped by his dad’s on the way home, where I was able to meet him, Bryan’s step mom, and their super cute Pomeranian. (of course I am not at all biased because I have one, too)
We were less than thrilled to head back to the grind on Sunday. But this trip made me realize something. We were STRESSED OUT. Not that I didn’t know that, but this trip allowed us to be US again – the silly, stupid song making, ridiculous picture taking, FUN couple we were before all of this nonsense started. We laughed, slept in, and enjoyed each others’ company. For a few days I wasn’t constantly worried about money and IVF. One of the suckiest side effects of infertility (besides the obvious) is the way that it can slowly inch its’ way into your marriage, and its’ ability to leave you feeling one day, seemingly out of the blue, that your relationship just isn’t the good solid thing it was before. You start to wonder “how did we get here?”. These few days away helped us find US again. We need US to be successful at becoming parents. That isn’t to say that everything is perfect now that we are back home. Stress doesn’t go away, and unfortunately you can’t just run away from it. But the last couple days at least things have felt more lighthearted, and for once I’m glad to have that timeshare, so the next time I get an unsuspecting email about another charge I can say wholeheartedly TAKE THAT TIMESHARE! We will just take a trip!
April 10, 2012 at 9:54 pm
Yea, it’s hard on marriages! Our hardest time was the 3 years doing treatment, after 2 years of trying the old fashioned way. We hard dark dark times, the cost was such a huge burden, I’m glad you guys had some fun.
April 10, 2012 at 10:08 pm
The cost is so beyond ridiculous I can’t even begin to understand it. We need to win the lottery 😉
April 10, 2012 at 10:01 pm
I agree, its extremely hard on marriages and sometimes you really really need the time away to reconnect and feel like yourself again! Im so glad you had a great time!
April 10, 2012 at 10:07 pm
YES IT IS! I’m sure we will be using it again!
April 10, 2012 at 10:26 pm
You guys are seriously adorable. Being able to spend time with each other and reconnect is SO important. This whole thing is so stressful on a marriage so it is good to see you two enjoying one another. 🙂
April 11, 2012 at 12:18 am
People ahead of you in the struggle always tell you how hard infertility is on your marriage and sex life but you don’t truly understand til it starts affecting you directly. I’m so glad that you got a couple of days away with the hubby. Sometimes a quiet roadtrip can do a lot to help take away some of the stress 🙂
Sometimes hubby and I just get in the car and drive. We pack a picnic and just drive til we are hungry, stop and eat and then drive til we are ready to head home. It helps keep us sane.
April 11, 2012 at 1:54 am
Sounds blissful & yes it’s a hidious time for relationships I can see how it breaks people x
April 11, 2012 at 1:58 pm
Hi Theresa, Thanks for stopping by my blog. It really sucks to be in the double trouble position. I hope the suplements work and you don’t have to do IVF.
Sounds like you had a great trip.
April 11, 2012 at 3:55 pm
This looks like it was so much fun!! I totally understand the stress/marriage/fertility stuff…it’s definitely helpful to pack up and leave the daily grind–even if it’s for a quick weekend.
April 13, 2012 at 5:15 pm
Sounds like so much fun! Glad you went away for the weekend!